The Rules of Parenting - It's Better To Agree Than To Be Right

Parents, do you find yourself always wanting to prove to your children that you are right? Even to the extent of insisting you are right when the evidence is pointing to the opposite?

This is your ego.

Where does your ego come from?

There can be many reasons. One of the biggest reasons was what you had experienced when you were young.

After living with my grandfather for more than a year, I can finally understand why my mother acts the way she does. My grandfather is a very stubborn person, always insisting he's right. My dgrandfather is nearly blind. When I told him that the bread he bought had tuned mouldy, he became overwhelmed and told me that "it is not possible for bread to turn mouldy." When I told me I didn't want to hang my clothes out in the balcony to be dried and instead wanted to clothes to be hung indoors, he told me, "I'm stupid and my clothes will NEVER dry." When I told him that the floor was dirty, he told me he had already mopped a while ago and the floor was not dirty. Initially, I used to insist what I said, but nowadays, I just told him, "Up to you. If you don't want to believe my words, it's okay."

I can imagine my mother living with this kind of father, he's always right and the child's always wrong. Their relationship is extremely bad. My relationship with my mother is equally bad as my had knowingly or unknowingly taken on her father's persona. 

So ask yourself, if it's just a small matter, would it be worth scarring the relationship between you and your child by insisting you are right?

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Crisis Rule 87: It's better to agree than to be right

The Rules of Parenting, by Richard Templar

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