In any relationship, not just parent-child relationship, communication is very very important.
In the communications class that I took while I was attending university, and in those communications training classes that I attended after I started working, communication is defined as a two-way process by which information is exchanged between individuals.
Simple? But not that simple actually.
How do you communicate effectively with your children?
There are two main types of communication: verbal and non-verbal communication. Verbal communication is about the words you use and it makes up only a small part of a person's overall communication mix. In fact, it's only about ten percent. The rest is made of non-verbal communication which consists of tone, eye contact, gestures, body posture,
Appropriate Words
Use neutral and positive words as much as possible. Use praise wisely. Positive words nourish the spirits in children while negative words drains them. Be wise with your words.
Tone
Your tone can either help you to reinforce the message you want to convey to your children or contradict it. If you want to emphasise certain rules, make sure you look at your child in the eye and use a firm tone. A casual tone will contradict the seriousness you want to communicate to your child.
Eye Contact
Always look at your child when you are talking to your child. Sometimes, you can be very busy. But speaking to your child without looking at him or her brings across the message of inattentiveness and also that you are not valuing your child.
Gesture
When my mother is angry, she will stretch out her index finger and wave it up and down in front of me for every word she's yelling, to emphasise each word. I felt so disrespected and humiliated. Especially when she started each sentence with 'you', she would point her finger squarely at me. If she's fuming mad, which could also become physical and use her finger to press hard on my head, so that I looked at the ground instead of staring at her. Fortunately she did not go to the extent of using her middle finger. Can you learn any lesson from my experience?
Body Posture
If you have a young child or young teenager, make sure you sit in a proper manner. Your children are always imitating you, including the way you sit and stand. Proper spinal development is essential for general good health and physical development of children. I have seen so many cases where children and young teenagers develop curved spine. Some had to undergo surgery while others need external support to adjust their spine to a healthy curvature.
Cheers to better communication!
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In the communications class that I took while I was attending university, and in those communications training classes that I attended after I started working, communication is defined as a two-way process by which information is exchanged between individuals.
Simple? But not that simple actually.
How do you communicate effectively with your children?
There are two main types of communication: verbal and non-verbal communication. Verbal communication is about the words you use and it makes up only a small part of a person's overall communication mix. In fact, it's only about ten percent. The rest is made of non-verbal communication which consists of tone, eye contact, gestures, body posture,
Appropriate Words
Use neutral and positive words as much as possible. Use praise wisely. Positive words nourish the spirits in children while negative words drains them. Be wise with your words.
Tone
Your tone can either help you to reinforce the message you want to convey to your children or contradict it. If you want to emphasise certain rules, make sure you look at your child in the eye and use a firm tone. A casual tone will contradict the seriousness you want to communicate to your child.
Eye Contact
Always look at your child when you are talking to your child. Sometimes, you can be very busy. But speaking to your child without looking at him or her brings across the message of inattentiveness and also that you are not valuing your child.
Gesture
When my mother is angry, she will stretch out her index finger and wave it up and down in front of me for every word she's yelling, to emphasise each word. I felt so disrespected and humiliated. Especially when she started each sentence with 'you', she would point her finger squarely at me. If she's fuming mad, which could also become physical and use her finger to press hard on my head, so that I looked at the ground instead of staring at her. Fortunately she did not go to the extent of using her middle finger. Can you learn any lesson from my experience?
Body Posture
If you have a young child or young teenager, make sure you sit in a proper manner. Your children are always imitating you, including the way you sit and stand. Proper spinal development is essential for general good health and physical development of children. I have seen so many cases where children and young teenagers develop curved spine. Some had to undergo surgery while others need external support to adjust their spine to a healthy curvature.
Cheers to better communication!
(If you are using a mobile phone, please switch to web version view instead of mobile version view to see the opt-in box to subscribe to my updates which will deliver to your mailbox straight download box for the first chapter or my book. Download my book too from Amazon to read how I lived through my mother's iron hand. Or please provide me with your name and email address in the opt-in box at the side or bottom of this page to read the first chapter for free.)
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The Rules of Parenting, by Richard Templar
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